Leon Richard of Farmington, ME Okay. I'll cut an paste this slow for everybody. ;)

There were two women in the story who lost children. One lost a 13 year old to a stupid trick of inhaling spray paint fumes sprayed into a bag. The other one:

*Rhoda Freeman can relate to that. The Maine director for American Foundation for Suicide Prevention went through her own primal scream therapy after losing her 24-year-old son to suicide eight years ago.

She first became a volunteer and more recently an employee for the national, not-for-profit group.

Freeman said she and her husband decided to be open about their son's death from the beginning.

"You never get over it," she said, "but you have to live. What good does it do to sit there being depressed about it for the rest of your life?"*

Folks have to pay attention to stuff, then comment.report abuse

Rick of Winslow, ME Actually, her son was 13 . .report abuse

Leon Richard of Farmington, ME Only one person used the word, "depressed" in the article. The mother who lost her 24 year old son to suicide said, ""You never get over it," she said, "but you have to live. What good does it do to sit there being depressed about it for the rest of your life?"

The only reference to depression in the entire article. You read stuff into articles, and go after people who offered a comment that was meant in only the best of spirits. I was not "caustic" in any way. Did use the word "selfish", which is a word commonly used by survivors to describe the action taken by their loved ones who killed themselves.

I'd suggest not reading things into articles and then commenting on them as though they were written as you imagined them. Things will be much clearer and discussions will go further.report abuse

Leon Richard of Farmington, ME Don't require your approval, agreement, or permission to speak my mind "Mauricio". I stand by what I said, including, "GET HELP!".

Your problem is, you stop reading the second you come to something you even slightly disagree with, and then shoot your mouth off.

Have a more than passing familiarity with clinical depression, and organic depression, and have responded to a number of calls involving suicides, completed, attempted, and threatened. Some were "clinically depressed" and some were hysterically upset by something.

You're depressed, but might get better if you seek help and try. Kill yourself, and you're dead forever, and forever is a LOOOOONG time.

So, is it not exactly as I said it was? "Permanent solution to a short term problem?"

Part of the trouble is this crap we're all fed about "normal life", and "happiness". It's a farce. Find your happiness in whatever small doses you can get it in. Grab it and enjoy it. The smallest things, and notice them and enjoy. Why? Because the majority of things that come along in life that impact your happiness are going to be major kicks in the guts, that's why. So, to remain somewhat in balance, you'd better learn to sincerely and completely enjoy a sunrise, sunset, an eagle flying past, time with your family and friends. Don't get too hung up on being happy and feeling like a failure when you're not. So what?

My favorite movie line is Jack Nicholson in "As Good as it Gets." When he's leaving the psychiatrist's office and he turns around and looks all around the waiting room, and when everyone has looked up he says, "What if this is as good as it gets?"

That would be okay with me. But I won't stop trying either. It's a bonus if it gets better.

So my highly educated and sophisticated psychology expert friend. I hope you have a nice weekend. Next time I speak with someone who is suicidal I'll refer them to you. You're obviously much more qualified than I.report abuse